Advice to an 18 year old in 2030…

I went to my good friend Eveli’s baby shower over the weekend, and we were handed a card and an envelope with an important number on it. Mine was 18. I can put anything in the envelope and will write a message to Delisa (New baby) for her 18th birthday.. This is a GREAT idea, but I’ve become all philosophical and I don’t know where to start.. There’s so many things I want to share with this unborn many lessons I’ve learned and mistakes I’ve it’s making me wonder whether the advice I share with her would actually be taken on board, because upon reflection, I was VERY hard headed and independent at that age..Don’t think I did much listening. 

If you could speak to your 18 year old self, what advice would you give..?


Dear Phylicia,

Romantic involvement distracts you and can blind you to what’s really in front of you. And what really is in front of you? You are. You don’t even know yourself yet. You think you know and you want to assert that you do, now that you’re a certain age, but you don’t. What’s in front of you is a whole world of experiences beyond your imagination. Put yourself, and your growth and development, first. There are long-term repercussions to what you’re doing now. Everything you do, every thought you have, every word you say creates a memory that you will hold in your body. It’s imprinted on you and affects you in subtle ways—ways you are not always aware of. With that in mind, be very conscious and selective.

With high hopes for you,

Phylicia Rashad on The Oprah Winfrey Show


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