These are my truisms, the list keeps on growing and growing and growing, and as I grow older every month, I find it useful to remind myself of these to keep my life in perspective, on track and to stay as resilient as possible.
(Please note that these might not appeal to everybody, but I thought I’d share it anyway.)
1. Stop Comparing – Revel in your individuality, let your freak flag fly! Why? Because living a life filled with comparison will always leave you feeling inferior to others. More often than not, we’ll meet someone for the first time and we’ll (ESPECIALLY Photographers) analise others, see how much/little they know, how successful they are, what camera gear they have, who they’ve worked with etc. Why do we do this…? In order to measure ourselves and our own accomplishments. This is sad. It makes me sad. NEVER compare, because the journeys we take and decisions we make, all have unique outcomes. We all have our own path, our own destiny and our own goals. Move at your own pace and be proud of it.
2. Perform a personal SWOT* analysis – (*Brings together the internal and external environmental scanning to identify the business’s internal strengths and weaknesses and external opportunities and threats) — Uhhmmm..yeah I know, makes me sound real clever right? What I mean with this is mainly, know what you have to offer, what your strengths are and what your weaknesses may be.
4. Have a project- Any project. Whether it’s self improvement, home/garden/community improvement, have a project, something that’s purposeful and enriches your life and the lives of others.
5 . Make a plan with a specific goal– If you’re departing from Brighton without a map and end up going past Land’s end in order to get to London you’ll take way more than double the amount of time it would have taken if you just had a map and a plan in the first place. You could have avoided the unexpected detour. Unless that’s your goal, have the end of your journey in sight. That way you’ll have a clear idea of where you’re heading.
6. Look forward to something– get excited! Whether it’s meeting an old friend for lunch, planning to go camping or booking your next holiday. Make plans and you’ll have something exciting to look forward to. What a fabulous motivator!
7. Dream- ” There is suffering in life, and there are defeats. No one can avoid them. But it’s better to lose some of the battles in the struggles for your dreams than to be defeated without ever knowing what you’re fighting for “, Paolo Coelho.
8. Focus on solutions– Laugh at your failures. You’re only human. There is no point to wallow in your failures as unfortunately that will leave your mind in a negative and nervous state. This is unproductive and can cause more issues, problems or failures. Rather focus on solutions, and you might be surprised at how innovative you can be.
9. Go with the flow– Ask yourself every day if what you’re doing makes you happy. If, after 10 working days your response is still a negative one, -Make a change.
10. Be silly – Remember the kid you once were. Inside we’re all just kids, looking in the mirror every day, wondering how it all just flew by so fast. Laugh until your face aches and snort like a pig. At least you’re having fun.
11. Celebrate your birthday once every month for a year… After every 3rd of every month, I change the date of my birthday on Facebook to the same day for the next month. I now get awesome birthday wishes 12 times a year…it never gets old… 🙂
to be continued…